Tuesday, April 07, 2009

结婚‘帮单’篇(3)




原来新娘的头纱有可以有那么多的故事。这也是在结婚时一样很重要的东西。
1)带头纱--在新娘还没出家门前家里的长辈(父母)会帮她把头纱盖上。听说由父母盖上是一种的祝福。
2)开头纱--之后就到礼拜堂的婚礼了。在牧师祝福祷告与宣布这两人正式成为夫妻后新郎会把头纱打开,然后亲新娘,这应该是每场婚礼的最高潮吧。
3)脱头纱--这是一个朋友告诉我的。她说接了新娘到家头纱一定要新郎来脱,而且还有脱的方式。她说当把所有的什么固定头纱的夹子脱完了,拿一双筷子来把头纱夹了丢到梳妆台上,那样以后婆媳关系就会很好。哈哈哈你信吗?
当然那天的头纱是我脱的,但是不是那个原因。因为我的宴席是在中午的,大家都在赶出门没人帮忙所有就自己来咯。那一丢也是为了拍照而作的动作。
写了那么多有关‘结婚帮单’的贴不是要告诉大家我知道了很多什么的。而是希望各位如果你结婚时家里有老人家,有很多东西还是什么‘帮单’一定要你遵守,虽然你很不乐意结果在压力下还是做了,那也是一种的无奈。
请各位一定要记的不要把你的无奈传给你的后辈们。还有这些有的没的‘帮单’不要再把它传下去了。
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3 comments:

杨善 said...

帮单(风俗)让婚礼像个华人传统的婚礼,红毛人要都没有呢。家有老人家,你不照办都不行啦。
等你做了公公,那时可能你的孙子会不照办了,不过那时你变成老人家,搞不好是你要办帮单了呢。谁知道?

I Am Sarawakiana said...

It is always good to document all these pantang or customs.

thanks.whether people keep them it is really up to them. Personal choice. And very often up to the older generation and agreed upon by both sides.


I remember one case when both sides did not want to follow many of the pantang. Years later the daughter in law was still childless. the mother in law started to ask for the two lanterns (thousand sons etc.). when these were sent the daughter in law fell pregnant immediately. Believe it or not? Smile.

Anonymous said...

ok. the point is, if the pantang/custom is reasonable, or is a type of blessing perhaps, i think is good to follow. but i realise that usually chinese custom(s) is against the christians' believes/faith. during that time, do you think the custom should be followed?

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